Words can hurt
- thehoneybunnyblog
- Sep 22, 2017
- 3 min read
No matter how you phase it, WORDS CAN HURT, you might not have intended to hurt someone by saying your being stupid, that what your saying is nonsense. Those are just a few examples right now. Seriously words have consequences, they can cut deep if misinterpreted or if they were actually meant as a dig. We live in a word thats constantly finding new ways to communicate instead of face to face conversations or phone calls, now we have Instagram, Facebook, SnapChat, WhatsApp and so many more. Don't forget texting it's actually difficult to figure out what the deeper meaning behind someones words because honestly everything has a deeper meaning. And unless you have known the person for years and years it hard to actually know what they mean. For me I am lucky because I have a few friends who I know exactly what they mean via the various ways of communicating. My best friend/Sister in England is the prime example I can use, we have known each other for well 14 years? We only message each other in emergencies and honestly its me messaging her
about random things I need to tell her so we can talk about them when we Skype each other or I need immediate advise and she is the same way with me. We honestly have never had a fight, we have this understanding that we listen to each other and if you hurt one of us the other feels the pain too. She is my sounding board for the important choices I make in my life, since moving to Canada you think our friendship would have hit a wall that you couldn't come back from, but honestly it hasn't changed at all. What I am trying to say it there are special people who you can just talk to I don't just have one in that respect I have like 6 people I can really talk to about how exactly I'm feeling and why I'm hurting, but the difference with these people is instead of messaging each other over various types of media we talk in person or on the phone or via FaceTime.
I am super careful what I write to people because I don't want to offend anyone with my words but I can't even count the amount of times a wrongly worded text or ambigious text message has had me in tears, because I am so expressive with my words I try and explain myself fully but texts like your being way to dramatic, over the top, your being ridiculous etc. Honestly these types of responses drive me more crazy. No 1 you should never say someones overreacting because that is the way they feel and it can not be changed, for me to others I always seem like I'm over reacting, but what people forget is I suffer from anxiety & depression plus I have the fun side affect of my medication which can make me completely irrational at the best of times.
What I am getting to is that if you have something delicate or important to say, try and say it in person or on the phone because being able to hear the emotion in someones voice or see how you feeling in your expressions is much easier than re reading a text a million times to try and figure out the actual meaning. Lots of people are being hurt because the words cut so deeply, because they don't necessarily understand the tone of the words, we can only go with how its read in our heads and if there are the little emojis to help define what someone means.
To me writing is a way for me to express myself completely and utterly without worrying about who I am going to maybe offend or hurt, nothing I write is directed at anyone, its just the way I get things out of my head and somewhere I can sort them into the correct boxes.
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