It's ok not to be ok

Has anyone told you it's ok not to be ok? We all put on this front to the world, whether its through various types of social media where we feel this need to show everyone that we are having the time of our lives even if the reality is that on the inside we feel like a mirror thats shattered into thousand pieces. Maybe everyone is turning into actors ? because we are so good at putting on a show so that no-one can see the pain beneath, but that isn't a solution to the issue that so many people suffer from some form of mental illness. Yes there are organizations out there like Bell who do raise awareness to the subject of mental health & illness, they have celebrities and athletes who suffer to speak up about their problems. Bell's Let's Talk Day is incredible, this year I am pretty sure they raised over $6 million dollars to be donated towards mental illness charities and programs. That in itself it incredible and nothing should be taken away from the amazing work they do.

Even though lots is being done, I don't know if its enough, so many young adults suffer from depression or anxiety and its frightening, is there even more pressure to fit in than there was 10 years ago ? honestly yes there is, for example instagram, facebook and twitter, lets say a picture was posted on instagram, and it only got 5 likes, the person who posted the picture would feel sad, worthless, unliked because a picture didn't receive the attention that was craved by the person, which could leave someone open to be ridiculed for the fact they don't get many likes on their pictures. Or another example peoples accounts start to get trolled with degrading comments like you aren't pretty, no one likes you, go die. I'm not even kidding I have seen people write things like this, these social media platforms offer another way for bully's to attack their victim normally the bullying stop at the end of the school day but now with all these types of social media, is there ever a break from it now? constant messages, comments, even by blocking them doesn't do much because all they have to do is set up another account and continue with what they where doing. Its heart breaking because there is only so much that can be done to prevent it. People need to make the change stand together not apart, if you see someone being bullied say something, don't watch and do nothing, you could save someones life.

Have you ever noticed how most of the pictures on instagram and facebook are of people literally living what seems to be the dream? These applications are bombarding young adults with so many images of the things they need in the their lives to be happy and that you can only be happy if you have the latest technology and coolest clothes, and of course the main one, being thin and beautiful. Society is setting unrealistic examples of happiness that are almost impossible to achieve unless you have some what unlimited funds, no wonder levels of depression are higher than ever, we think because we are not living this perfect unrealistic life that we are not successful, that we have barely achieved in life, that we are a failure. But its not true, you are not a failure, life happens for all of us at different speeds, my life was crazy busy and hectic in my early 20's all I did was work work work, and now in my Mid 20's life in different, I had a year off, and I'm building my life in a completely different healthier direction, there is no shame in changing the course of your life or not being at the same place as someone else. Don't let the fear that your not good enough stop you from playing the game.